I am not usually comfortable in a bar by myself, but I had been in San Francisco for a week and the apartment I sublet had no chairs in it, just a bed and a couch. One Tuesday I had lentil soup for supper standing up at the kitchen counter. The bar had red fake leather booths, Christmas lights and a female bartender. At the other end, around the corner from where I sat, a bespectacled man my age watched the game. The couch had a woollen blanket woven in a Navajo-inspired pattern, exemplary of a trend in San Francisco that a friend of mine calls ‘White People Gone Wild’. I had fiddled with the knobs and the gas, but couldn’t figure out how to ignite it.After I finished, I moved to the couch in the empty living room and sat under the flat overhead light refreshing feeds on my laptop. As the only man and the only woman alone at the bar, we looked at each other. He handed me his mobile and pointed to a Facebook post. When I moved in, the receipt for the blanket was on the mantelpiece. At night the room had the temperature and pallor of a corpse. I returned to my mobile and opened OK Cupid, the free internet dating service. ‘Tattoos are a big part of my friends’ and family’s life,’ he wrote.Counsellor Sue Pratt gives some advice on how to combat racism and pick yourself up, you'll hear from MJ who's experienced racism on Grindr and is now dating a Dutch guy, PLUS our very own Brooke Boney from triple j breakfast tells us her dating stories and shares a couple of tips on things NOT to say when going on a date with someone Indigenous. Have you ever dated someone who is completely self-obsessed?Selfish, charmingly manipulative and totally lacking empathy, especially when it comes to sex? Sexual therapist Cat O'Dowd explains it, and we hear from a caller who dated on, and one caller who thinks he might be one.Two days later – March 18, 2009 – the pair married at The Little White Wedding Chapel on the Las Vegas Strip.According to court records, Jenkins was charged in June 2009 in Clark County, Nevada, with "battery constituting domestic violence" for hitting Fiore on the arm.It was the flush end of a pleasurably hot day — 85 degrees in March — and we were all sipping bitter cocktails out in my friend’s backyard, which was both his smoking room, beer garden, viticetum, opossum parlor and barbecue pit.
Fiore had met Canadian-born real estate investor Ryan Jenkins at a Las Vegas casino shortly after Jenkins had completed filming Megan Wants a Millionaire.
We hear from Dan who posts a video on Instagram every day (and hasn't missed a day in over a year), and social media expert Karalee Evans tells us we're all a brand now, and how we should navigate that.
But first, we hear from Colin who is refusing to add his girlfriend on Facebook!
Where do our preconceived ideas come from when it comes to dating someone of another race or ethnicity and how can we look past those?
You'll hear from sociologist Dr Zuleyka Zevallos and counsellor Sue Pratt, plus Santilla Chingapie from the SBS documentary Date My Race, Andy Trieu from SBS Pop Asia and our very own Shantan Wantan Ichiban share their experiences. We take a look at some of the challenges Indigenous Australians come across when dating.