For some men and their partners, this lifestyle is more than acceptable.
For me, it is not one with which I wish to participate. I do not wish to pass judgment on others’ relationships as I figure there are enough tea leaves for all.
When you’re infatuated and everything feels intense, yet vague and uncertain.let’s live like the light that killsand let’s as silence,because Whirl’s after all:(after me) love, and after you. I shall be brief, but frank, Terse if not curt, aloof, though unswerving—What little we had amounted to nothing. I sit on a sandbank as I scribe this, For tonight the twilit beach is impossibly Gorgeous. No the two of us together Like the last time, but whatever. When the relationship wasn’t meant to be, but the sex was fantastic.“The Word” by Dorianne Laux You called it screwing, what we did nightson the rug in front of the mirror, drapedover the edge of a hotel bed, on balconiesoverlooking the dark hearts of fir treesor a city of flickering lights.
I occasionally feel vague howvague idon’t know tenuous Now-spears and The Then-arrows making doour mouths something red, something tall2. And on the verge of this horizon’s indifference, I watch as a ship slips into the distance. You’dwhisper that word into my earas if it were a thing you could taste —a sliver of fish, a swirl of chocolateon the tongue.
I also believe we all deserve to feel we have the power of making a choice.
May I suggest that the DWM who approach those of us who are Dating While Single (DWS), try something as simple as honesty?
It can feel like an exorcism that brings up every ugly thought and issue that you may have been unaware was rumbling around inside you.
Many BR readers have been or are in an affair situation and wonder, I hope that these fifteen tips can help to put any woman who is in this situation on the road to feeling happier, secure, and free to move on to healthier relationships.
If this is about trying to influence or even force him into making a decision or at the very least, gameplaying, re-evaluate your motives and think about the bigger picture and whether is how you want to spend your time, because it’s a slippery slope to losing your dignity and no one is worth that. One of the strengths of the guy in this relationship is that he has the power to get around you. That and whatever you’re prepared to settle for is what you’re going to get. Put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself how you would feel if you were her in the same situation. When you stop seeing her as this inconvenient, pesky obstacle, in truly empathising, you will be able to feel compassion and also have self-compassion. Do you still want to be doing this in 3, 6, 9, 12 months or even in years? Instead of being in watching TV with your feet up waiting for his call, be out. If you think you’ll be tempted to be swayed, change your mobile phone or block his email address. You’d be surprised though – lots of people have been in your situation.In its astonishing yet simple way, poetry allows us to reconnect with a world that often feels like it takes us for granted. If they would not name me Bastard, worthless, stupid, whore I could not grab onto my own spoken language,my love for my kind, myself.The following poems speak to the emotions specific to different phases in relationships, from first-date jitters to decades-long loves to soul-crushing breakups. Poems with links in the title will take you to the full versions.)1. and you could not be happier.“Epistolary” by Jill Alexander Essbaum Dear BLANK. The untidy-up-able mess Of your meanness, piles of petty treasons Birthed like broken promises, breech. …Then with no walls around us, you and Iwill speak of truth to each other,the soil that grows the vegetableas deeply as the flower that nevertouches the soil.20.Yet poetry has the capacity to be the most life-changing of the arts. If they would not say Lesbian I could not say pride.Poetry changes the way we see and experience the world, reveals aspects of our lives and loves we may have lost sight of, and opens us up to the transformative possibilities of language. If they would not say Queer I could not say courage.