Friendship dating courtship and marriage

So is the trend toward intimate friendships between single men and women a good thing? If you haven't read my previous articles on biblical dating, you'll be helped in thinking through this issue by reading "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." Based on some of the principles found there, let me offer a couple of practical reasons why I believe such friendships to be generally unwise, and then I'll suggest a positive role for friendship among singles in the Christian community.

In this series of articles, I've raised several biblical principles regarding the way we should treat our brothers and sisters in Christ.

Basically, the question seems to be how exactly single Christians should relate to members of the opposite sex in that large and awkward zone between "we've never met" and a deliberate dating or courting relationship. I won't repeat the full history lesson here, as several Boundless authors have already discussed it (Joshua Rogers most recently, in his excellent piece "Your Friendgirl Deserves Better").

Essentially, the historical reality is that until 30 or 40 years ago, long, intimate friendships between men and women in which each served as the other's emotional confidante, relationship adviser and "best buddy" were far less common than they are today.

Dating can help build this foundation; but unless participated in wisely, dating can also prove disastrous.

While each couple’s courtship will be different, here are several areas of building a friendship that Judy and I considered while we were preparing for our marriage.

Sitting near the end of a parade once, my family was thrilled to see President Ezra Taft Benson step out of a car that had just completed the parade route.

We watched as President Benson slowly made his way around to open the car’s other door.

The following is offered as a short Christian dating guide for Christian singles to consider as they build a Christian dating relationship.My husband and I had the privilege and blessing of great mentors.They poured into our lives as singles and took us through months of formal and informal premarital counseling.As well suited to each other as the couple had felt they were, they felt overwhelmed by the stresses of married life, and their relationship began to deteriorate.Part of Scott and Pamela’s problem was that they had not properly built an enduring friendship marriage, even in the midst of challenges. Kimball wrote: “The successful marriage depends in large measure upon the preparation made in approaching it. One cannot pick the ripe, rich, luscious fruit from a tree that was never planted, nurtured, nor pruned” ( Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1969, p. Before entering the temple to be sealed, a man and a woman must build an inspired foundation of friendship and compatibility.

Friendship dating courtship and marriage