Then there are the misconceptions which inevitably come with dating a bigger girl.The sad and misguided ideas that bigger girls are somehow more grateful or easy to please, from offensive assumptions to overly excited family members.
First, let me preface this with a thank you to The Crunk Feminist Collective – yes, you read that right – for even existing…
I have never been “the norm.” I have been overweight all my adult life (see also heavy, curvy, voluptuous, fat, “BBW” — whatever term you want to use).
To be honest, dating while fat, Black, queer, a hood feminist, and a radical activist means either compromising parts of myself, or suffering through easing partners into gradually respecting all of my humanity.
Living in a culture that defines my body as unhealthy, a problem, ugly, unhygienic, and unworthy of love makes it that much harder to find a potential partner to value all of me.
In my teens and early twenties, I’ve experienced a lot of bullshit, disappointments, almost-but-not-quite’s, and occasionally some really great partners.