A majority of my survey participants (55 percent) chose to reunite with someone they loved when they were 17 or younger – their first loves.And another 29 percent chose a former sweetheart from late adolescence (ages 18 to 22). And with the exception of yours truly, who would rather stick his tongue in a bear trap than even think about his high school girlfriend, many look back on their first romances with fond feelings. She said that three-quarters of first loves who reunite years later decide to stay together, even when the reunion begins as an adulterous affair.
These compelling reunions are typically between first and early loves, says Nancy Kalish, Californian State University Professor of psychology and expert in rekindled love.
Rekindling a romance has become trendy since the creation of web sites to find old classmates, people search engines, and now social networking websites, but it is not a new phenomenon.
I have been researching rekindled romances since 1993.
The reunited couple grew up in the same community during their formative years, went to school together, shared a peer group, and were often close to their first love’s family.
Descriptions of the rekindled romances invariably included “comfortable” and “familiar.” Lack of sexual involvement when these couples were teens neither increased nor diminished the adult couples’ success in the reunion.