It could be a lifestyle choice for those who believe in it.With these instructions and support from those around you (and perhaps a guide from above), you can lead a celibate life." It seems to me that the vast majority of people (not always women) who desire to abstain until marrige are not just looking for someone who will respect their desire to abstain, but for someone who will respect the reasons for their desire to abstain--their conservative Christianity.So, you’ve made the decision to abstain from sex until marriage? You are dating while celibate and you’ve joined many other singles who have made this personal and spiritual choice, including Meagan Good and Tamara Mowry who both decided to become celibate while they were dating.My high school sweetheart of almost a decade had dumped me to marry my best mate, and that affected, so deeply, how I thought of myself.I think I was looking for parts of myself in every man who I seduced.Is a policy of sexual abstinence until marriage a workable real world posture for 30 to 40 something single women if they wish to form attachments with reasonably high quality male suitors in todays dating and relationship environment? IIRC, the female in question has a son, so it isn't like she is "holding on to her innocence." I surely couldn't do it, but for other people..It may cramp the style of some suitors, and it will surely limit the choices, but it can work. She was in her 50s at the time, he in his 40s (2nd marriage for both).
I was reading this thread where a poster was commenting on the issues involved with potentially being asked out on a date, and indicated she held toward a policy of strict abstinence until marriage.Is a policy of sexual abstinence until marriage a workable real world posture for 30 to 40 something single women if they wish to form attachments with reasonably high quality male suitors in todays dating and relationship environment? Worked for my cousin, who was in her late 30s while dating her now-husband (2nd marriage for both). Not meaning to be snarky here, but what is unworkable about no sex before marriage?Is someone putting a gun to people's heads and telling them "get in bed RIGHT NOW or else!It took me a while to realise it, but once I did – once it hit me that I was lonely, and a bit of a phoney – the reality was devastating. The turning point for me was being in bed with a balding Australian who wouldn’t speak to me on nights out with mutual friends and yet, somehow, I’d always take home.One lazy morning I leaned over to him and said, "Make me come…" His answer was to check his watch, and get up to go shower.